4. You said your libido was historically low. Have you ever enjoyed sex? Have you ever initiated sex with your husband? Have you ever initiated sex with anyone else? 4. You asked if I have ever enjoyed sex? Yes, I have..
Have I ever initiated sex with my husband? Yes, but it wasn't very often.. Have I ever initiated sex with anyone else? Yes, My boyfriend.
5. You said you do not have a recently reduced libido. Has your libido ever been good? 5. Has my libido ever been good? Yes, I think so.
8. You describe the quality of your marriage as very bad. How bad is it?
Are you on the verge of a divorce? 
How is your marriage very bad or what specifically makes it very bad? 
When did it become very bad and has it ever been better than very bad?
8. Regarding the quality of my marriage..It's very bad, but not on the verge of divorce.  How is my marriage bad or what specifically makes it bad? Well, I'm not attracted to my husband anymore nor do I feel like I'm in love with him anymore..I do love him, but more as a soul mate. We haven't had sex in over a year..it may even be 2 years now..It's been going downhill since the birth of my first child 20 years ago.
13. You feel that your husband would describe your marriage as very bad.  Why do you think he would he feel that way? 13. My husband would describe our marriage as very bad because he hasn't had sex in a very long time..If we were to try to get intimate, it would feel like being with a stranger.
24. You indicate that you suffer from depression. When do you feel depressed? If we could draw a line between your depression and specific events in your life what would those events be OR do you know what makes you depressed? 24. Regarding suffering from depression.. I feel depressed when I'm home with nothing to do..I feel depressed when I think about having to live in my small, old, cramped house probably for the rest of my life..and when I think I'm fighting a lost cause in trying to get my packrat of a husband to clean up his act.
25. You say you regularly feel tired or run down. Is this feeling an all day constant or do you feel more tired and run down at specific point of the day? 25. feeling tired and run down..I feel tired pretty much all day..
26. You say that you are not getting enough rest. Is this due to impositions on your life that are beyond your control or are is the lack of rest due to a self imposed schedule? Based on later answers, do you think your lack of rest may be due to your weight? 26. Not getting enough rest? Actually, I think I get plenty of rest, the problem is, all I want to do is sleep. I do think I'm tired alot because I don't get any exercise and due to being overweight.
38. You said you lost your virginity when you were 8. That's kind of young, how old was the person you had sex with? 38. Lost virginity at the age of 8. The person I had sex with was probably about 50..
39. You said it was not a pleasant experience. Was the sex forced upon you or was this a youthful exploration that went bad?  ---- If 38 and 39 are related please be specific in your answers. 39. No, it was definately not a pleasant experience..and it was forced on me. (Yes, numbers 38 and 39 are related..this was my next door neighbor when I was growing up..and he was a pervert) ..(but he's dead now, so that's ok..and no, I didn't kill him)
41. You said you had your first orgasm at 30. Was that a pleasant experience? How did that orgasm occur, specifically what caused it? Did your orgasm surprise you? Did you ejaculate when you had that orgasm?  What act caused your orgasm to occur? 41. First orgasm as the age of 30..Yes, it was a pleasant experience.. My husband gave me oral sex (which surprised me) Yes, I did ejaculate.
42. You said you have had sex with 5 males. Does this 5 include the person who molested you?  Are you putting the 5 at people you wanted to have sex with, or does that include all sexual encounters? So I can make a time line and keep it straight, what are the names (first names only) of all of the males you have had sex with, what age(s) were you when you had your first relationship with each of those individuals and how long did those relationships (sexual only) last? Did any of those relationships overlap, ie; were you having sexual relations with guy A on Monday and Friday and sexual relations with guy B on Wednesday and Sunday? Did any of those males know each other? If so, how? 42. Had sex with 5 males..This includes the man who molested me, plus two others who took advantage of me.. this is all of my sexual encounters..
Tommy  (I was between 8-11 yrs old) lasted 3 yrs
Paul Jr (I was 14 yrs old)  lasted about 3 months
Paul Sr. (same age) This was Paul Jr's father and he molested me while I was staying over at Paul Jr's house and his sister Debra (whom I was friends with too) This was a one time thing with the father..thank God.
Stanley (I was 14 yr old) he was friends with Paul Jr. and was also a one time thing.. (apparantly Paul Jr. told Stanley that I was giving him sex, so Stanley wanted some too..the good thing was that I was having my period at the time, so I think it embarrassed him alot.. but it didn't deter him.
Scott (it stared when I was 17 yrs old) He's my husband.
43. You said you have given hand jobs to 3 different people. What was the gender of those receivers? 
Were the receivers part of the sexual partners list? 
Again, only so I can keep it straight in the time line, I will need the first names, and age contacts and frequency of contacts like question
43. Hand jobs,  were given to males only..I have never had any sexual encounters with a female.
Tommy (8-11 yrs old) ongoing for 3yrs..(against will)
Ricky (I was 15 yrs old) lasted about a year..
Clarence  (I was 16 yrs old) lasted about 2 months
Scott (17 yrs to the present) 
42. Were these hand jobs given by your choice, against your will or to avoid other sex acts? 42. Yes, given by choice, but wasn't to avoid other sex acts. (Except for the one with Tommy was to try to avoid other sex acts)
44. You say you have received manual stimulation from 5 people. What was the gender of those giving manual stimulation? Were the givers part of the sexual partners list? Again, only so I can keep it straight in the time line, I will need the first names, and age contacts and frequency of contacts like question 42. Were these manual stimulations received by your choice, against your will or to avoid other sex acts? 44. manual stimulatin from 5 people.(actually, I guess it was 6 ppl) All were male, 
Tommy (I was 8-11 yrs) ongoing for those 3 yrs and against my will
Paul Jr (I was 14 yrs) went on for 3 months and was
received by choice.
Stanley (14 yrs) one time only, against my will
Ricky (15 yrs) about 1 year, received by choice
Clarence (16 yrs) about 2 months, received by choice
Scott (17 yrs -present) usually by choice but
sometimes against my will.
45. You said you have given hand jobs to 3 different people that produced orgasms for the receivers. What was the gender of those receivers? 
Were the receivers part of the sexual partners list? Again, only so I can keep it straight in the time line, I will need the first names, and age contacts and frequency of contacts like question 42. Were these hand jobs that resulted in orgasms given by your choice, against your will or to avoid other sex acts?
45. Hand jobs to 3 different people that produced orgasms for the receivers.This is the same answer as to number 44 above..it was actually 6 ppl..their genders were male.
the hand jobs were to:
Tommy (8-11 yrs old) for 3 years..against will
Paul Jr. (14 yrs old) 3 months..by choice
Stanley (14 yrs old) one time only, against will
Ricky (15 yrs old) about a year, by choice
Clarence (16 yrs old) about 2 months, by choice
Scott (17yrs old to the present) by choice (mostly)
46. What is the gender and first name of the person who manually stimulated you to orgasm? How old were you when that happened and how old were they?  Were they able to repeat the effect at a later date?  Did they know what they did?  Did you tell them what they did? Was the result an accident or the givers skill? 46. Gender and first name of the person who manually
stimulated me to orgasm? Male and Scott..we were both 17 yrs old..yes he knew what he did, and repeated it often..the result was not an accident.
48/50. You said you have given oral sex one person, and one person you gave oral sex to had an orgasm. What was the gender of the receiver? Was the receiver part of the sexual partners list? Again, only so I can keep it straight in the time line, I will need the first name, and age contacts and frequency of contacts like question 42. Were these oral sex encounters given by your choice, against your will, to avoid other sex acts, as a part of foreplay or as stand alone events? Was their orgasm released orally or externally? 48/50. the gender of the receiver of oral sex was
male, it was from my husband, Scott. the orgasm was
released externally as I am opposed to swallowing
semen. (I wish I could, but it just seems wrong and I
don't like the taste) We are the same age, and I think
we were about 30 when we first had oral sex.  Given by
choice..
49/51. You said you have received oral sex from one person, and one person gave you oral sex resulting in orgasm. What was the gender of the giver?
Was the giver part of the sexual partners list? 
Again, only so I can keep it straight in the time line, I will need the first names, and age contacts and frequency of contacts like question 42. Were these oral sex encounters
received by your choice, against your will, to avoid other sex acts, as a part of foreplay or as stand alone events? Was their orgasm you achieved one that produced female ejaculation? Were they able to repeat the effect at a later date? Did they know what they did? Did you tell them what they did? Was the result an accident or the givers skill?
49/51. the same as above, it was given from my husband, Scott, we were about 30 yrs old..given by choice, and as a part of foreplay. Yes, it did produce female ejaculation. he did repeat the act..it was not an accident, it was his skill.
53. You said you the first time you masturbated you were 35. Had you ever tried masturbating before that time? How did you masturbate when you first masturbated, rubbing, clitoral stimulation or inserting an object into your vagina? Be specific. What reason did you have for choosing  masturbate at that time? Be specific. OR were you forced to masturbate? 53. First time masturbated was at 35...No, I had never
tried it before..I did this the first time by rubbing
my clitoris vigorously ...this was at my husbands
suggestion. He wanted me to show him what I thought
felt good, so he could pleasure me the same way..
54. You said you did not achieve orgasm the first time you masturbated.  How did that make you feel? Were you expecting an orgasm? You said your first orgasm was at 30, and your first masturbation experience was at 35, did you have any orgasms between the two events?  Were you trying to achieve orgasm the first time you masturbated? 54. No, I didn't achieve orgasm the first time I masturbated.  I guess I felt frustrated..I wasn't really expecting an orgasm but was kind of hoping. No, I didn't have any orgasms between the first time I had oral sex and the first time I masturbated..
56. You said you continue through for multiple orgasms when you masturbate.  Is this several short quick orgasms? Or do you get a few large full body orgasms with short rest periods between each orgasm? How many orgasms do you achieve in each masturbation event? About how quickly do you orgasm, specifically from the start of masturbation how long does it take to achieve your first orgasm? How long do your masturbation events take, specifically from the start of masturbation to it's completion after your last orgasm? 56.Regarding multiple orgasms..I usually get about 2 or 3 large full body orgasms with short rest periods in between. It takes me about 10 minutes to reach orgasm. From the beginning to the end, it takes about 45 minutes or so..
58. You said that you work to conceal your masturbation activity. How do you conceal the activity? Do you wait to have your house clear, or do you masturbate while your husband sleeps or...? How do you conceal the activity? Why do you conceal your masturbation activity? Are you ashamed that you masturbate? How would your husband react if he found out you were masturbating? 58. I do work to conceal my masturbation activity..I wait for my husband to go to work and my daughter to go to bed... this now only takes place on Tuesday nights because on the nights work, I get home at the same time as my husband..I used to get home at about 3am and since he doesn't get home until almost 7am..it gave me several hours alone. I close my door and lock it (in case my daughter wakes up and tries to barge in) and I usually have the t.v. on for the noise, but now per your instructions, I put the radio on for the noise and have the fan going and sometimes I even run the dryer for the noise.  I conceal it because I feel that somehow it is wrong to be doing it..I'm sort of ashamed that I do it..I
don't really know how my husband would react..I think
he would rather I do it in front of him instead of
leaving him out..
64. You answered 0 for how often you and your husband have sex. Have you and he ever had sex? If so when was the last time? 64. My husband did have sex frequently..but as the
years go by, we have it less and less...I don't
remember the last time we had sex...It's maybe been 2
years now...
66. You said your husband initiates sexual activity more frequently. How often does he initiate sexual activity? What is the outcome of his advances? How often do you initiate sexual activity? What is the outcome when you initiate the advances? 66. My husband USED to initiate sex...he has given
up..he knows I'm "working on it"...as I have told him
over and over just to get him to leave me alone..I
never initiate sex anymore as I'm not interested.
67. You answered your for of birth control as 0. Is this for religious reasons or other personal reasons? Has your husband had a vasectomy? Are you trying to have another child? Are you allergic to birth control devices or prescriptions? 67. My birth control is 0 because there is no sex so
there is no need for birth control. ( I really want to
fix this sexual problem within my marriage and even
went so far as to get a prescription for birth control
pills last year when I went to my gynecologist for my
yearly..but didn't get it filled because insurance
didn't pay for any of it...which was silly on my part)
76. You answered the rape question as a no, but you added that you were molested by a neighbor on a regular basis. Do you not consider this rape?  About how old were you when these molestations occurred? How long, over what span of time, did these molestations occur? How old were you when the molestations stopped? Did anyone find out about these molestations? Was the person who molested you brought to justice? Do you and this person who molested you cross paths anymore? Did you report the molestations to the authorities? Does anyone else know about the molestations? 76. I didn't really consider the molestations rape because it occured on a regular basis and it was with someone i knew...but i guess it would have been considered rape. I was 8 yrs old when it started..I never told anyone until my boyfriend Scott (which turned out to be my husband) and I still haven't told my mother (my father is deceased, but I hadn't told him either) The molestations stopped when we moved across town when I was 11 yrs old..but the old man (Tommy) even visited me at our new house in an attempt to do it again..the man was never brought to
justice..but after I told Scott...he called the man and told him he knew and that he was going to tell his (Tommy's) wife...This really upset the old man.. and made me feel better.  Apparantly, this old man (Tommy) molested my little sister too...she never told anyone when it was 
happening either because the old man scared us into not telling a sole...so neither my sister nor I knew it was happening to the other one at the time.
76B. Not that I want to bring up bad memories, but you didn't really answer the question clearly... Have you ever been raped, outside the context of the molestations you endured? By rape I mean, have you ever been forcibly made to submit to sexual intercourse against your will? If
so, how many times?
Information retrieved from other questions.
77. You answered the question about how many times you had been raped with an answer that may have been related to your molestation. You said you lost count. Did you lose count because it was so long ago or because it was so frequent? Information retrieved from other questions.
81/82. You said you do not feel like you have a good marriage and that you would like to improve the quality of your marriage. Have you tried to improve the quality of your marriage before? If you have, what did you
try, and why did it fail?
81/82. Regarding improving the quality of my marriage.. no, i've never really tried to improve the quality of my marriage. i've thought about family or marriage counciling, but i've never gone past the "thinking about it" stage.
83/84. You said you want to improve the quality of your sex life but you do not enjoy sexual activity. Specifically which parts of your sex life do you want to improve? And which sexual activities do you not enjoy? Which sexual activities do you like? 83/84. I want to actually enjoy the act of sex because i know it is a necessary part of marriage. To be honest, i could go the rest of my life never having sex  again... although i would want the masturbation because i enjoy that. But i know it is not fair to my husband.
88. Why does the thought of sex make you depressed? 88. The thought of sex makes me depressed because it's
not something i enjoy doing. It's a chore to me and now since it's been so long since we've had it, it would be very awkward.
89. Why does the act of sex make you nervous? 89. The act of sex makes me nervous because since my
heart isn't in it, i'm afraid it's going to be obvious to my husband
90/92. You describe the quality of your sex life as nonexistent. Is this because you and your husband do not have sex, seldom have sex or have never had sex? 90/92. We do not have sex anymore.
91. Why is your marriage depressing? 91. Because there "appears" to be a lack of love
there. I do in fact love my husband, but i have a hard time
showing him. I don't even hug my kids anymore (ages 20
and 11) although, i'm trying to do better with hugging and showing affection to my kids.
93. You describe the quality of masturbation as good. Could it be better, or are you playing your emotions down on this question? On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the worst and 10 being the best, where would you rank your 
masturbation? 
93. My masturbation is good. I don't know if it could be any better..I think on a scale of 1 to 10, it would be a 3.
94. You describe your relationship with your husband as friendly at best. What would you do to make it better? What would you like him to do to make it better?  94. I guess I would touch him more, learn to kiss him again and eventually have sex with him again. I would
like him to give me back massages. I would also like him to stop complaining about our 11 yr old daughter's behavior and school work. I know it's bad, but I really hate his bitching about it all of the time.  This side of him I dislike because it also makes our daughter hate him.
96. Why is your life depressing?  96. Because no one in the family is happy. My husband
complains about our daughters bad attitude, bad behavior and poor grades...my daughter is unhapppy about being yelled at all of the time..and I'm frustrated because I don't know how to make everything right...
104. Join the club. Every couple argues more about money than sex. Oddly enough studies show that highly sexual couples have happier marriages and argue less about all subjects. Do you feel that your arguments about money are a substitute for arguments about sex?  104. Yes, I also believe if my husband and I were having sex again, maybe he wouldn't have all of this built up anger inside of him anymore and maybe he would be nicer to our daughter.
112/113/114. You said you are not satisfied sexually with the quality of sex or your current level of sexual activity and you are concerned about your current level of interest in sex. How long have you been dissatisfied with the quality? The level of activity? And how long have you been concerned or bothered about your lack of interest in sex?  112-114. I've been dissatisfied with the quality for years (10 at least) the problem with that is, since I have been refusing sex for so long, my husband thinks, (and I think so to) that I've made him impotent. It's botheared me all along that I have a lack of interest in sex. My husband says things to make me feel guilty and I know it's not fair to him.
121. Why do you think you have been up and down emotionally in the last 3 months? Have you had some traumatic event? Has this been a problem for longer than 3 months?  121. I don't know why I've been up and down emotionally in the last 3 months..nothing has happened
but this has been going on for the last 20 years.  We've only completely stopped having sex within the last 4 years.
125. You weren't sure about your husbands weight. Put him and yourself on the Tanita Electronic scale and measure your percent body fat in addition to your weight. Mail me the results.  125. My husbands weight is 249 lbs and is 31 percent
body fat.. I'm 172 lbs an 41.5 percent body fat.
131/132. You said you and your husband both work night shift hours? Are they the same shifts? Same days off? Do you work at the same place? So I can plan your activities better what are each of your hours?  131-132. I work 930p-61 with Tues/Wed off...He works 6p-6a Sun/Mon/Tues and every other Sat. But for the next 4 weeks and the past 2, he has to work mandatory overtime on Wed. So we won't be off one day a week together anymore, until about mid-May. No, we don't work at the same place.
134. Your upbeat and depressed? I'm a little confused, please explain.  134. Well, I think I've narrowed it down to when I'm
premenstrual is when I get depressed. Usually, I'm upbeat..unless we go through another screaming session
with our daughter.
136. You said you did not have a lot of physical activity at work. So we are working from the same frame of reference again, what do you do for a living? I work for Microsoft's Pacific rim network solutions hub. I have 
to sit in a chair all day and tell people on a phone how to fix a problem they caused, but won't admit to. My being confined to a chair 8 hours a day is my job. 
136. I work at American Airlines in the reservations area (help desk to the reservations agents) so I sit at a computer all day (like you do). Although we now have sit or stand positions...so I could actually stand at my computer all day.
140/141/142/143. You and your husband have low self esteem and do not hold the other in high esteem. Have you ever considered raising each others self esteem? We will have to discuss that more later.  140-143. Well, we've never really discussed raising each others self esteem.
146/147/148/149/150/151. You don't feel like either of you are attractive to yourselves or each other. Again have you considered saying nice things about each others appearances, even in the nude.  146-151. No, we haven't discussed it.
152/153. You said you were unhappy with the whole package when describing your physical appearance. If you could change any part of your body what to change first?  152-153. My legs and rear end.
155/156/157. You have described your husbands body as unattractive and as overweight and you said you would like to reduce your husbands stomach. What other parts of his body would you like to change? You described 
yourself and your husband as overweight, would you like for both of you to lose weight, or just your husband? Do you have any exercise equipment? Give me a pretty exhaustive generalized list of what equipment you do have.  Think of everything you have ever bought for exercise, that you have NOT gotten rid of. You would be surprised what you may have that is still useful. 
155-157. I would like to add definition. I love a man with some muscle. Just not body builder type muscles.  I would like to build up his chest and arms. I would like for us both to lose weight. Yes, I do have some exercise equipment-I have a stair stepper/ladder climber, a medicine ball, several free weights with a bar and the ball you guys sent me.
158. You know a little about sex but want to learn more. Do you have any particular areas that you would like to learn more about? Do you wan to improve your masturbation skills? Your skills with your husband? Your 
skills as a couple? 
158. There really isn't anything in particular I'm wanting to learn about. I would like to improve my skills with my husband (like foreplay) both giving and receiving.
159/160. You say he knows a little for his sexual literacy, but does not really know you at all. Have you ever told him what you want or need?  Have you ever tutored him on your body? Would he follow your directions if you told him what to do?  159-160. He knows me sexually a little..but he says 
himself, "I don't know what I'm doing down here"
(although he does know a little..When he did hand jobs
before..he would tell me to tell him what I wanted him
to do..because he felt awkward and clumsy.
161. How would you like your husband to become a better lover? Be specific. Is he inept, uncoordinated, awkward, selfish or not attentive to your needs?  161.  I guess he is uncoordinated...he's not selfish,
which is good and he is attentive to my needs..
162/163. You described your husbands penis as below average when not erect and above average when erect. That may be, but just so I we are working from the same frame of reference, please check the Demographic/Penis page on your web page. After you check the information send me mail and let me know where he stands versus the graphs.  162/163. According to the chart..my husband's penis is 121-130mm in circumference (erect) and 151-160mm in length (erect)...when not erect, his length is about 76mm...
164. You described your husband as an under 3 minute man. How quickly under 3 minutes does your husband ejaculate? When was the last time you helped him ejaculate? Did he used to have better endurance? Would you like to improve his sexual staying power? How long would you like him to go? How long would he need to be able to go to satisfy you sexually?  164.  I guess he probably ejaculates in about 2 minutes.. I've never actually timed him.. I don't remember the last time I helped him ejaculate.. Yes, he used to have better endurance. Yes, I would like to improve his staying power. I would like him to go maybe 30 minutes....I'm not sure how long I would need him to go to satisfy me sexually...I guess 30 minutes or so..
165. You describe your ease of orgasm with your husband as getting you there almost never. How many orgasms has your husband helped you achieve?  When was the last time he performed satisfactorily enough to give you an orgasm? Have you ever faked an orgasm with your husband?  165. I don't know the actual number of times my husband has helped me achieve orgasm...maybe 20 or so.  It's been a long time since he performed satisfactorily enough to give me an orgasm...maybe 4 months or so.. no, I've never faked an orgasm. 
166. You said that when masturbate you easily achieve for multiple orgasms. Is this several short quick orgasms? Or do you get a few large full body orgasms with short rest periods between each orgasm? How many orgasms do you achieve in each masturbation event? About how quickly do you orgasm, specifically from the start of masturbation how long does it take to achieve your first orgasm? How long do your masturbation events take, specifically from the start of masturbation to it's completion after your last orgasm? When you orgasm do you sometimes ejaculate?  166. I get a few large full body orgasms with short rest periods in between.. 2-3 orgasms about 15 minutes to achieve.  about 30 minutes total.  yes, I ejaculate a little, but not much. 
168. What interferences do you and your husband have that would prevent you from openly discussing sexual matters?  168. There really isn't any interferences preventing us from openly discussing sexual matters..It's just my lack of wanting to.
172. You answered the how often do you and your husband have sexual activity with, Zilch. When was the last time you and your husband had sexual activity? So I can more accurately understand your situation, when were the last five sexual activities between you and your husband? I mean any kind of sexual activity?  172. I honestly couldn't tell you when the last time my husband and I had sex, it's been such a long time ago. The only kind of sexual activities my husband and I have had have been foreplay (hand jobs) and rubbing up against each other in the shower.
175. Why does your husband not ask for sexual activity anymore? Does he have an erectile dysfunction, or any pain related to sexual activity? Is he embarrassed or ashamed about his performance? What happened before when he asked you for sex? Would you like him to ask again? Have you considered asking him?  175. My husband doesn't ask for sex anymore because he knows it's no use. Yes, I think he does have erectile
dysfunction due to the length of time without sex. (I don't know if lack of sex would actually cause erectile dysfunction..would it?) Yes, I think he is both embarrased and ashamed about his performance.  Before when he would ask me for sex, I would look for an excuse not to have sex with him and he got tired of the rejection. Right now, I don't think I'm ready for him to ask me, but eventually, yes. I would either like him to ask me or I would consider asking him.
185. On question 42 you said you have had sex with 5 males. In 185 you said you had 2 sexual partners. This number should include your husband. Please explain the difference.  185. I was thinking in terms of sexual partners as people you voluntarily had sex with...I didn't consider the men who thrust themselves on me as being sexual partners, but if we count them..then the answer is 5 in my lifetime.
186. Your husband has only had one sexual partner? Do you mean other than you or only you.?  186. Other than me, but that was when he was in
Jr.High school.
187/188/189. You do not like to kiss your husband, he is a bad kisser and you don't like to touch him. Were these issues when you started dating?  Has he ever been good at kissing? Have you ever liked touching your husband? Why is he a bad kisser? What could he do to kiss better? Have you ever told him how you would like to be kissed?  187-189. It's awkward kissing my husband now..We're
more like real good friends. He used to be a good kisser and probably still is, but he doesn't brush his teeth like he should, so I would have to make him brush his teeth so his mouth is kissable. I've never talked to him about his kissing.
Some of the girls like to split hairs on same sex relationships, group sex 
and interracial relationships. So we can be clear have you ever; 
1) had any relationship that involved you touching and feeling another girl for the purposes of sexual arousal, and have you ever received a similar behavior from another girl?  1. No, I've never done anything sexually with a female.
2) had any relationship that involved you touching and feeling another person for the purposes of sexual arousal in the presence of another person or persons, and have you ever received a similar behavior from another person in the presence of another person or persons?  2. No, Never done anything sexually with more than one
male.
3) had any relationship that involved you touching and feeling another person from a different ethnic background for the purposes of sexual arousal, and have you ever received a similar behavior from a person of a different ethnic background? 3. Yes, I did have several encounters with a black guy
where it involved touching for sexual arousal and yes
I was on the receiving end as well.